Men Dropping Out of Dating

Tired of Being an ATM or a "Creep"? The Truth About Modern Dating – And Your Game Plan

Let's face it: modern dating is less of a romance novel and more of a flaming dumpster fire. If you're a man feeling overlooked, used, or simply confused about why women are so hard to please, you're not imagining things. A significant shift is underway, with 63% of men under 30 in the U.S. opting to stay single – a notable increase from 2019. This isn't just about personal choice; it's rooted in fundamental changes to how men perceive partnership and a pervasive problem of entitlement from women that is making men opt out entirely.

The Entitlement Trap: Why Men Are Ditching Modern Romance

For many men, the current dating landscape feels like a rigged game where they're constantly on the defensive or expected to be a "walking ATM".

• Unrealistic Expectations & Delusional Standards: Many women, influenced by social media and "Disney prince charming" narratives, hold "absurd and delusional standards". They often expect an "Omni-man"—a perfect partner who simply doesn't exist. This hyper-reality leads to "average women reject[ing] average men, perpetuating loneliness". Studies even suggest a majority of women on platforms like Bumble set height preferences for men at 6'6" or above, creating an "astronomically small" dating pool for their preferences.

• The Financial Burden: Despite women earning their own income, a significant number still expect men to cover all dating expenses. While 84% of men and 58% of women acknowledge that men still cover more dating costs, men often feel like "walking ATMs," footing bills for dinners, drinks, entertainment, and sometimes even personal expenses like manicures or hair styling. This leads to resentment, especially when women prioritize "nails and vibes" costs over contributing to a shared bill. Men can spend upwards of $200 on a first date, only to be ghosted.

• The "Chad Chase" & Fear of Being a "Creep": Women's obsession with "1% Chads" (men who are ripped, rich, or charming) means they often overlook "average Joes who'd worship the ground they walk on". Meanwhile, average men who dare to approach women in person are increasingly labeled as "creeps" or "predators" on social media. This fear of public shaming discourages men from taking risks, causing many to stop approaching women altogether.

• Lack of Accountability & Ghosting: Many women "dodge accountability like it’s a communicable disease". Ghosting, where someone vanishes without a word, is rampant; 78% of daters have been ghosted, and 30% admit to doing it. This "coward's exit strategy" leaves victims feeling betrayed and insecure. Women are 40% less likely than men to apologize for flaking or abrupt endings, a trend worsened by dating apps giving them "endless options".

• The Marriage Trap: For men, marriage has become a "loaded gamble". Women initiate 66-70% of divorces, and divorce laws often favor women, impacting assets, alimony, and child custody. This, coupled with the perception of women's "dating value peak[ing] early," means men often weigh the "liability against commitment," leading many to delay or avoid marriage entirely.

It's Not Just Men – Women Are Struggling Too!

While men are disengaging, women are also caught in the "dumpster fire". They face the challenges of catfishing, ghosting, situationships, and the emotional toll of unrealistic expectations and social media pressures. Many find themselves caught in the trap of chasing "top-tier" men, only to be disrespected or left feeling used, all while overlooking potentially loyal partners. The "loneliness scam" impacts over 40% of adults, creating a crisis of chronic isolation for everyone.

Your Game Plan: "Dating Sucks: The Brutal Truth About Modern Romance"

The current dating system is rigged, with algorithms designed to keep you scrolling and tech giants profiting from your loneliness. But you don't have to be a victim.

"Dating Sucks: The Brutal Truth About Modern Romance" by Dave Alto, Ph.D. is your snarky, no-BS guide to surviving the dating jungle. This book offers a direct, brutally honest approach to navigating the modern dating landscape for both men and women by providing:

• 30 practical playbooks to "yeet the creeps, dodge freeloaders, and maybe—just maybe—find that long-lasting love".

• Insights into how to "swipe smarter, love better, and maybe even find your forever match—without losing your sanity or your savings".

• Tools to call out the BS, from algorithm tricks to situationship mind games, using real stories and hard data.

• Strategies to address the unspoken truths about women's expectations and dating imbalances, encouraging both genders to take accountability, set realistic standards, and prioritize genuine connection over superficial "clout".

• Guidance on setting boundaries, identifying red flags, rebuilding trust after dating disasters, and avoiding the "provider pressure" and "entitlement trap".

• Tactics for men to overcome fear of commitment and women to make the first move, fostering a more balanced dating dynamic.

It's time to stop letting modern romance defeat you. "Dating Sucks" helps you "dissect the carnage, laugh at the absurdity, and maybe—maybe—figure out how to survive without losing your sanity or your data plan".

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